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April 18th, 2006 at 01:38 am

What a horrible, horrible day. I went in to work to find my office mate and good friend died over the weekend in a stupid accident. He drowned after standing up in a kayak. Why? I have no idea. I don't know if they know why he did it. It was probably one of those split second decisions where you never think "what if...". But now it's too late. My heart aches for his widow and two children. And I ache for the friend I lost. I have only known him about 9 months, but we shared a lot of laughs and had a very similar outlook on work, family, politics, even money (he was the one I brown-bagged it with when everyone else ordered out). We both had a sweet tooth and would share the chocolate we both hid in our desks. When office politics got to be too much, we would close the door to our office and swear up a storm. We both took pride in doing our job well. We would talk about how nothing, nothing at all, was more important to us than our families. And now my office feels just wrong without him there to bring a smile to me face.
I don't feel much like writing tonight. Please, everyone, hold your loved ones a little closer today. Think before you act. I am as guilty as anyone of driving a little too fast when I am late, of taking convenient shortcuts when I should be thinking about safety, of not wearing my helmet or seatbelt when I am only going to the neighbors - but the impossible can happen, even when we think it cannot. Take care, everyone. I'll be checking in later.

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12 Responses to “one stupid move...”

  1. boomeyers Says:
    April 18th, 2006 at 02:02 am 1145325752
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    Hi Jodi! I am so sorry you lost your friend. It sure sounds like you lost a valuable ally. It just brings tears to ones eyes. I almost lost my husband three years ago and I feel so bad for his widow. I will keep you all in my prayers!

  2. carol Says:
    April 18th, 2006 at 02:08 am 1145326115
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    Sorry, had to get the tears out of my eyes before I could write this. I'm so sorry you lost your friend. Hang in there.

  3. mjrube94 Says:
    April 18th, 2006 at 02:12 am 1145326374
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    I'm so sorry to hear about your loss, and am thinking of you...

  4. miclason Says:
    April 18th, 2006 at 02:59 am 1145329165
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    ((hugs))

  5. lrjohnson Says:
    April 18th, 2006 at 03:12 am 1145329949
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    My thoughts are very much with you at this hour.

  6. baselle Says:
    April 18th, 2006 at 05:11 am 1145337077
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    My condolences. I am so sorry for your loss, I'll give DH an extra hug tonight.

  7. dmontngrey Says:
    April 18th, 2006 at 09:54 am 1145354086
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    How sad. My thoughts are with everyone.

  8. fern Says:
    April 18th, 2006 at 01:41 pm 1145367663
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    So sorry for your loss.

    I appreciate your sharing this as my SO and I are regular kayakers. I can see how it is easy to become complacent doing something you love and are familiar with. I will share this with my SO as a warning not to forgot safety precautions.

  9. Ima Saver Says:
    April 18th, 2006 at 01:48 pm 1145368118
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    Oh, I am so sorry you lost such a good friend.

  10. kashi Says:
    April 18th, 2006 at 02:12 pm 1145369552
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    How awful!! Frown You are in my thoughts.

  11. Thrifty Ray Says:
    April 18th, 2006 at 03:14 pm 1145373282
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    Hold tight to those beautiful memories. I am so sorry.

  12. jodi_m Says:
    April 18th, 2006 at 09:26 pm 1145395618
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    Thank you, thank you all so much for the kind words. It does help to hear them. Today was a very, very sad day for me as I moved back into my office without him. I think the shock is wearing off. Tomorrow I will meet his widow for the first time at the calling hours - there is never anything you can say to someone in this situation. Again, thank you all so much for taking the time to read and care.

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